Inspirational Words for Mamas with Preemies

For the second time in less than 2 months, a status on my Facebook wall has popped up about a friend (or a friend of a friend) delivering early… like really early.  26 or 28 weeks early.

When these updates appear, I actually have a physical reaction.  A rush comes over me- knowing what we know about the challenges of Olivia’s early start, I have a small (albeit, very small) window of understanding into their situation.

I think about how small Olivia was when she was in the Special Care incubator struggling to breathe.  We were so blindsided by all the challenges associated with prematurity and slapped in the face with a potentially devastating newborn screening complication.  Then, I think about these tiny babies, who are just starting out on a long journey.  I just want to hug their mamas tight.  Thinking back on our experience, these words really inspired and comforted me.

The flow of these words reminds me of the famous “Everybody’s Free to Wear SUNSCREEN.”  Someone should make an inspiring video of wise advice for mamas of preemies.  In addition to what’s on this graphic, I would add a couple of other nuggets:

  • Some days, you are going to feel like a complete and utter failure.  Even in the worst moments, have confidence that you are doing the absolute best you can for your baby.
  • This will be HARD on your marriage.  If you pull together, it will bring you closer than you could ever have imagined.  Pull together.
  • No one can truly understand the heartache and uncertainty of this journey unless they themselves have traveled the path.  The things that can fly out of people’s mouths in an effort to “comfort” you can be utterly devastating!  Forgive them.  They can’t and don’t understand.
  • Prayer is SO POWERFUL.
  • It’s ok to feel like “this is not what I signed up for.”
  • Grieve your losses- especially, the loss of not being pregnant and the loss of the normal newborn experience.
  • Lean on your closest family and friends.  Accept their help, love, and prayers.

If these words strike a chord, here’s a PDF version: Preemie Inspiration Words

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4 Responses to Inspirational Words for Mamas with Preemies

  1. Amy November 19, 2013 at 3:37 pm #

    This is amazing! I wish I’d had this to carry around with me during our 134 day NICU stay. My 23-weeker has been home for almost 7 months and is turning 1 in a few weeks; it’s amazing how much these words still resonate with me.

    • Candice November 19, 2013 at 7:27 pm #

      Thank you, Amy! What an incredible journey you have been on with your brave little one- sending best wishes to you both on celebrating a big milestone in a few weeks!

  2. Jennifer B. March 28, 2015 at 10:39 pm #

    Candice –
    I love the Inspirational Words for Mamas with Preemies graphic! We were sent the image by several NICU moms to use to encourage other NICU moms on our Hand to Hold websites and I am trying to trace it back to the original designer for permission to use. From what I can tell that appears to be you? If so, we would love to credit you and use this on our Life After NICU page which has almost 17k followers. I think they would be encouraged and inspired! We might even ask permission to leave it at the bedside of some of the families we visit with in the units. Look forward to hearing from you!
    Jennifer

    • Candice March 28, 2015 at 11:05 pm #

      Hi Jennifer,

      Yes, I designed this graphic as I processed my own journey after my daughter’s early arrival… I would be honored if you would share this on your page and if it would provide encouragement to NICU families. Please let me know if I can help in any other way.
      -Candice

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